1. Left a bad relationship
It is easy to get stuck in a bad relationship. I got stuck in one off the back of another bad one (ironic eh?). It was a time when I was feeling particularly vulnerable so I rushed into a relationship without really knowing the person. And then I felt as though I was stuck. For a LONG time. I lost who I was during this time. I had forgotten what made me, me.
But the day I walked away was the day I started getting my life back. It taught me to never allow myself to get into that position again. I started putting myself and my happiness first. And this applies to friendships as well. It can be really hard to turn your back on these relationships, but stay strong. You should only surround yourself with people who lift you up and allow you to be the best version of yourself.
2. Quit my job
I did I Rachel from Friends and decided to feel the fear. Actually I did it twice. But the cliché of quitting your job in your twenties was the right decision for me. I thought that I may not be able to do this later in life when I might have more responsibilities, so I took the plunge and did it while I knew I could.
And I am SO glad I did. I left my jobs for different reasons; wanting to focus on my passions and putting my health first. It was defo the right thing for me to do. And isn’t it funny how every little choice we make leads to the crazy adventure that is life.
When I first graduated, I didn’t want to go on holiday or travel abroad, out of fear that I was going to miss out on auditions. For any actors who are wandering the best way to get an audition, just book a holiday. That seems to be the only time one is bound to come up. Sods law and all that.
But if the audition or any opportunity in life was that big, you’d postpone your holiday for it anyway. You can’t wait around for something which may or may not happen when you could be making amazing memories and seeing the world.
I never did the whole backpacking thing (not my cuppa tea, I’m more of a suitcase and nice hotel kinda girl) and I didn’t go away for 9 months as I did still have good work opportunities at home which I didn’t want to sacrifice completely. But after not going away for nearly 5 years, I’ve now been away 15 times in the past 5 years to 9 different countries and I don’t even know how many cities, which isn’t too bad if you ask me. I’ve got lost in the winding streets of Barcelona, I’ve strolled through Central Park on a Sunday and I’ve eaten gelato and pizza in Rome.
I’m so glad I opted to spend my money on these experiences. They are far more valuable than possessions.
4. Tried something new
I don’t think it’s ever too late to try something new in life. But I am so glad I took a leap and challenged myself in my early twenties. Starting this blog was one of the scariest things I’ve ever done, as was starting a YouTube channel. But I am SO glad I pushed myself and did it. I have found a huge passion for something different, which I may not have unlocked if I didn’t give it a go. I have learnt so much from starting out and wherever this takes me, I have no regrets.
So go to that hot yoga class you’ve always been tempted to try, take an open university course or even just order a different drink Starbucks (I tried the pumpkin spiced latte for the first time last autumn and just wow). If you don’t like it, move on, but as the old saying goes, you never know unless you try.
5. Made mistakes
Without making mistakes, we would never have the chance to learn or grow as people. Don’t get me wrong, we will continue to make them throughout our lives, but hopefully not the same mistakes twice. From sleeping with contact lenses in (I had to wear an eyepatch for a day) to putting my trust into the wrong people, these things needed to happen to help me to become the person I am now.
Photography: Jessica Choudry